Love Letter: Year Five


Dear Husband,

This year marks 10 years of us being together and, as of today, five of those spent as husband and wife. Five years is a big deal, but I’m more enamored with the ten. The decade. The two hands worth of spirit fingers waving crazily in our faces, willing us to join in their celebration. I say yes.

I’m so thankful for every moment our fingers have been linked together, especially for our recent jaunt down Miami’s memory lane. I have always felt safe and protected in your confident grip as we’ve navigated every up and down on our path. You have held my hand in affection, protection, comfort, empathy and support. A small gesture, but a daily dose of connection that nourishes me and us. I love it. I’ll never be too old to hold your hand.

Five years ago today we adorned our hands with not only bands, but also ribbons in our take on the traditional Celtic handfasting ceremony. The main ribbon knotted over our two clasped hands signified our vow to uphold and uplift one another, literally giving the other our hand in marriage.

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Today I will hold your hand as much as possible and probably make a lot of bad puns about how long we’ve been “Maui’d.” But that’s just because I can’t adequately say how grateful I am for you and our marriage, and how much I look forward to the next 5 /10 years. Thank you for loving me so well. Thank you for choosing to tie your hand, and your life, to mine. Thank you for continuing to uplift me. And thank you for leading all of our adventures. You know I’d follow you anywhere.

Because I’m holding on to you, and to us, with both hands.

You’re my favorite,

Your Bride


The cutest anniversary dessert forks were a sweet gift from Bobbie, Robert and Abby. We will treasure these as much as we treasure them!

Love Letter: Another Year

Dear Husband,

Another year older, another year wiser, another year of becoming more Utahn, another year of puppy cuddles, another year of good food and another year of being completely loved by me.

Some might say you’re livin’ the dream.

I don’t have any pictures of a young birthday you, but I imagine the cake-smeared face, the smiles against a backdrop of balloons and shreds of wrapping paper, the Star Wars or Transformers figurines that I’m sure made an appearance.

Neither you nor I are big birthday people, preferring quiet celebrations at home over a crowd, over a chaos. We’re simple like that, but it doesn’t mean I can’t make a big deal out of today, your day, even if it’s just for us.

I’ve always loved celebrating your birthday. Summer birthdays tend to be more fun with their sunny days, endless hours of daylight, vacation opportunities, picnic potential, and laid-back mood. Seemingly better than September, start-the-school-year birthdays.

Some days I feel like we blinked and found ourselves in our thirties. I still see us as the spirited 20-somethings that wanted to take on the world, who made ends meet in the craziest of ways.

Your first birthday we spent together was in Rome. Hard to beat, I know. Someday we’ll go back and play the older-wiser card, but really we’ll just be running around like the twenty-nf83hw72ns we once were and loving every bit of it.


Actually, we’d probably still be looking for the Trevi Fountain.


But until then, here’s to another year. I’m so glad you were born, but even more glad that you’re spending the rest of your ‘another year’s with me.

Happy birthday with all my love.

~Your Bride

Love Letter: Year Four

Dear Husband,

4 years = 48 months = 209 weeks = 1461 days = 35,064 hours = 2,103,840 minutes = 126,230,400 seconds.

That’s how long it’s been since we said “I do.”

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So, how can it feel like it was yesterday?

That week was so amazing. The culmination of six years of friendship, five of those years dating, four countries lived in, three degrees, two families and one very precious puppy.

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And, don’t forget, the true pre-ceremony test of cleaning salsa out of my teeth. Despite what you were thinking at that moment, you really were winning by choosing me as your bride.


Do you remember when our late-night study sessions used to revolve around madrigals, horn history and…inevitably…scary movies? Now they include discussions on equity, investments and Bella. We were mere babes back then. Muppet Baby versions of ourselves.

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It’s almost been ten years since I first laid eyes on you. First impressions are always the strongest, and while yours of me involved 80s hair and a shiny case, I admired your worldliness, not having a clue that in less than two years we’d be travelling the world together. But, before that there was Brass Choir, Horn Choir, ensemble rotations, recitals, music history classes, music history study sessions and many, many lunches. I think we’re the poster child for friendships turning into the best relationships.

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I think we’ve also proven that if you can survive living overseas together without killing each other, you’ll make it for good. I love our international trials, because they are THE BEST stories at parties…still. Hell, they are the best stories to just us. I’m glad we can still laugh about China. I feel like we’ll be 80 and still laughing about China.


But no marriage is perfect and we’ve certainly seen our share of struggles thanks to our being two of the most stubborn people on the planet. Thank you for being patient, sharing blame when it wasn’t needed, and showering me with kindness, all for the sake of bringing our relationship back to balance faster.

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To truly love someone, you not only accept their good, but also embrace their quirks. And you’ve got the hottest quirks around.

I don’t mind that you clutter our home with horns, because you also clutter it with laughter, silliness, hard work and love. I don’t mind that you can search Ebay for hours, because you use that same search prowess and determination to find us amazing places to live, travel deals and new jobs that take us far and wide. I appreciate everything you do to lead our little family of three, making me feel equally on my toes and safe and secure all at once.

This morning as I brushed my teeth, I stared at your wedding ring sitting on the shelf next to some lotion and floss. Something so extraordinary surrounded by the ordinary. This feeling of pure comfort and happiness washed over me. This is everything I imagined marriage to be and more. And that’s because of you. I will always choose you.

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Thank you, thank you. For leading me in ways I didn’t know I needed. And loving me at times when I didn’t think possible. I know I’m a handful, but I’m glad you’re the one holding me. I love you.

Here’s to forever.


Your Bride

Wedding photos by the one and only Ricardo Serpa.